Having kids is one of the most precious gifts that God can give. Giving birth to babies and raising them day after day helps unite a husband and wife. You smile upon the memories and the milestones as you strive to train them right each day. You are proud that they are yours and that they are a little piece of "you and me."
As much as I think parenting can be exhausting, I find so much joy in parenthood. God has chosen me as the "perfect" Mom for my two boys. He alone believes that I am the perfect fit for them and I know what is best for each of them. Although I feel like a failure at times, I hold on to that hope... that these boys need me in their lives here on earth. How rewarding is it for a man and woman when they see the results of raising their babies under the hand of God? What a unique way to unite a husband and wife...
On the contrary, kids can inevitably divide a marriage. Of course, this is unintentional and most times you don't even realize it's happening. But let's face it... those late night outs, romantic evenings, and spontaneous date nights have slowed down some and if you're anything like me, you miss them. I'm not saying that having kids will divide a marriage to the point of wreckage but what I am saying is that they can come between spouses if they aren't careful.
A woman ends up having a "new" love in her life. Her babies become top priority - a responsibility that is so precious, yet so exhausting. It's hard to make time for the man of your dreams, especially when you have left over spit-up on your right shoulder or a dirty pile of laundry waiting to be washed. And when both babies are sleeping at the same time, all you want to do is sit on your butt, enjoy the peace and quiet, and simply close your eyes.
A man ends up missing his wife terribly because his life partner is now trying to balance her time with not only him but their precious children. Although he admires his wife for the work she does (especially after having them for a whole entire day by himself) he still needs time with just her... something he doesn't get as often anymore.
So, as you can see... having children can unite a husband and wife but also divide them... We almost have to work harder at finding those moments in time, but I encourage you to do so... When my husband grabs me in the middle of the day to dance, I catch myself wanting to tell him that the garbage needs taken out or a diaper needs changed BUT I am learning to put it on hold... it can wait. The garbage will still be there. The diapers will need to be changed again in an hour... So instead, I choose to dance.
The next time your spouse pulls you aside for a middle of the afternoon hug or asks you out on a date, hug him... date him. I would give anything to have family close by so we could go on weekly dates. We have to be more creative with how we spend our alone time together... So don't let your precious babies divide your marriage. Instead let them unite you and next time you get the opportunity... Dance.
2 comments:
Well said, Sarah! I am the one that wants the trash taken out asap, or that diaper changed right away... I, too, have to remind myself that it can wait.
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